It's one of the hardest decisions you will ever have to make. Is now the right time to put your elderly parent or loved one into an assisted living or retirement facility? There is a lot to consider and we hope we can help in some way.
If the care of your an elderly loved one is left on the shoulders of a single person it can very quickly start to feel overwhelming. Yes you love them and are caring for them day in and day out but at some point you may feel that your life is consumed by this daily task. The good news is that there are plenty of resources to help you feel like you can regain your life.
The first thing you can do is call a professional. Set up an appointment with a licensed health care practitioner like a nurse or social worker, or you can set up an appointment with your loved ones personal physician. These types of professionals can help you assess the situation and make the decision as to whether right now is the correct time for your parent to move into an assisted living facility. They can also give you some comfort about the feelings you are having. It's very normal for people in your situation to feel consumed and like you don't have a life. Talking to professionals can ease some of those concerns.
If after talking to a professional you decide that now is not the right time for an assisted living home then maybe it's time to hire someone to help with your aging parent so you can create some margin in your life. These in-home respite care professionals can come to your home as often as you would like up to several days a week.
If in fact, you have decided that it is time to move your parent into a retirement home then you really need to take a moment to pause, realize that you now need to make some decisions for the health of both you and your family as well as your elderly parent. Remember that these decisions are out of love. Try not to think of it as you are "putting" your parent somewhere. Rather that you are bringing in qualified much needed care to
With the help of the professional you previously consulted, decide what kind of home would be the best fit for your parent; nursing home, retirement home or assisted living facility. Next, find a list of 3-5 homes in your area and set up appointments to visit.
When you visit a home take some time to visualize your parent there. Is it the type of place you can imagine your parent sitting and enjoying conversation with friends. Take time to walk the halls and get a good feeling for the property and the people.
Moving is always an exhausting process but when you are a helping a senior move into an assisted living facility it's important to make this process as effortless as possible. This isn't a short process. Don't expect to quickly make the transition and move forward. Even if the new home is some distance away you will play a major role in the transition process and thereafter as your loved one settles into their new environment. These are some general guidelines for making this transition significantly more smooth providing for a positive experience during the transition.
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